Wednesday, September 19, 2007

Follow up to Counting the Cost

So what does all this mean and what does it have to do with me?
Well, the elderly couple in the previous article are my parents. I have told the story before about how I was disowned and disfellowshiped by my parents because of my "liberal" religious views. It has been six years this month since my parents have spoken to me or my children. I feel guilty about comparing their religious zeal to that of a radical extremist, but I must admit the concept is really similar.

I suppose after six years I should be over it - in many ways I am - in many ways I'm not. I still stuggle with how I am suppose to feel about all of this.

Please understand, I think my parents ideas and action are simple, misguided and cult-like. But I do not think of them as bad people. They are not bad - They are just the opposite. If you ever got the chance to meet them you would love them too.

I have come to accept the fact that nothing in this life will ever change this situation. I had a conversation recently with one of my parent's old freinds. They were talking about how sad the situation was. I assured them that I would change it if I could. They sadly agreed that there was nothing that could be done.

I know that I will not be welcome at their funerals. Perhaps I should just have my own little service for them and move on.

4 comments:

Anonymous said...

Gary,
I feel your loss and want you to know that you are the best family and friend that I have ever had. God placed you and Lynetta in my life for a very special reason. I have seen and learned a great deal from the two of you. Your love of God and your family is a special gem that God has sent for you to share with others. I would love to have what you have for I have experienced a small part of that from you and Lynetta. Your words are always a lesson and a touching soul searching statement. You speak from the heart and lessons are learned from those words. God has two special angels here on this earth in you and Lynetta. Thank you for being the good people that you are and for being my family. I am proud to be a part of the Anderson family.

Peggy

garyneat said...

Thanks Peggy,
We love you bunches!

Anonymous said...

Your story is heart-wrenching. I have only "slighty" known you and Lynette for a couple of months and I appreciate the encourgement that your stories give to me.
Eddie Lee

Buttercups said...

Gary,
I must admit, after going through my own issues with my family in the last month, my problems seem to trifle in comparison, but I had to make the very hard decision to stand up for myself and my daughter, just like you did with your family. I can only tell you how much I love you and Lynetta and how much I admire you for taking hold of God's hand and trusting him.